I never regretted my silence once, but I regretted speaking many times.

 How to become a calm person

 How to be calm How to become a calm person

Are you a very nervous person?

 Do you get angry for trivial reasons? 

Do you want to show your anger at every moment when the opportunity is favorable or even unfavorable?

If you are one of those people who talk a lot, if you can't control your body language, if you are someone who doesn't know how to stay calm then you are reading the right topic because my friend I will tell you and teach you how to be a calm person.

But what is the use of being a calm person?

Being a calm person will benefit you in different situations and stages of your life. Being calm helps you:

Respond and deal better with adversity and problems that you encounter in your life.

Gain the trust and love of those around you.

Reach your goals and achieve them quickly.

Easily influence others.

Maintain your energy and activity.

And many other benefits that are of great importance require you to work on gaining the power of calm.

Being a calm person makes you a respectable person, a person with a very high mental strength, someone who can survive different situations that others cannot get out of, no matter how simple and easy, and most important of all that calmness 

and sobriety make you one of the most important characteristics A charismatic person, being calm in difficult situations and where keeping your nerves calm is very difficult is evidence that you have very high self-confidence.

Let me ask you some simple questions that I hope you will answer honestly with yourself:

How many times do you act recklessly wrong in a moment of anger that you regret a few minutes after you did?

How many times have you said something that you later regretted and wished you had cut off your tongue and you didn't say it?

I know, my friend, that the number of times may be a lot, but do not worry and do not be sad, we all have happened to this matter and to be honest, yes it happened to me and more than once in the past before I knew and learned how to stay calm and control my nerves in any difficult situation be in it.

I never regretted my silence once, but I regretted speaking many times.

But how did he become a calm person?

 Perhaps you are asking this question now, but before we start with this, let me tell you that you can gain control of your nerves and calmness like any other ability. It is not difficult or impossible, even if you are one of the people who did not know calm or how to control their nerves before You will be able to.

How do people become calm?

To become a calm person who is not impulsive and knows what to say and when to say it and how to say it, someone who controls his actions and body language as it should and does not let his anger control him and make him do reckless actions, so you only have to work on the following:

Control your movements (your body language): Try to keep the movements and gestures that you make under your control, do not neglect your body language and tire yourself and lose your energy with

 movements you do not need, as we often find people moving their hands a lot when speaking, they almost hit you with a punch Unintentionally, you are the calm and stoic person who is forced to avoid these punches as if you were in a wrestling ring.

And for this, try to control your body language as much as you can so that you do not fall into a state of tension and anxiety and lose your calm, because of your many movements that are useless, and if you have excess energy, leave it for a time you really need instead of wasting it uselessly.

 Store your energy and don't waste it: Did you know that talking wastes a lot of energy?

 Yes, but more than you can imagine and sometimes to stress you more than your stress for doing physical exercises, and here I remember the teachers in the school when they asked us to be silent and calm in the class and tell us that they are tired of talking, whether from our words we students or their words during a lesson difficult to understand .

In fact, they were right, but I did not realize this until after I read and studied when I entered the field of human development and self-development.

That is why you have to speak in a different way from others, you have to speak only useful and short and in a good way and do not waste your energy on empty talk such as entering into a discussion knowing that the other party is not ready to listen to you or that he is intolerant of his opinion and does not give the opinion of others any importance, and you have to beware Do not engage in a discussion when you are angry, but wait until you calm down and then start talking.

Watch your thoughts: you should always watch your thoughts because we act according to what we think and feel. Negativity controls you, because every thought brings another like it, so if you think of a good idea, good thoughts will follow and vice versa.

Take time before you say and before you do: This is one of the best and simplest ways to maintain your calm in any situation that you may encounter in your life. This method is very simple and each of us can do it.

This method, if you apply it, you will never regret losing your calm (that is, if you lose your calm and anger controls you), and it is that you wait for a certain period of no less than 3 minutes before you get angry or decide to do something wrong.

For example, if you were in a group of friends and someone started talking about a person and insulted him and reminded him of bad and it occurred to you that he is talking about you, for example,

 and you know that this person may not love you very much or be jealous of you or whatever, then you got angry and started to ignite from within So, you decided to get up and hit that person severely, 

hey wait, I forgot something :), it's the way I'm telling you about it and that is to wait 3 minutes before you hit him or respond to him with words (honestly I prefer to respond with words and I advise you to do that also and Don't resort to fighting because you won't win anything.

 Believe me, responding with words is stronger and better for you) and here, after 3 minutes to 5 minutes, you will find that all your bad feelings and anger have faded and calmness returns to you and you respond to it with coolness

 and sometimes you don't even bother to reply It's because you know who you are and who these people are talking about.

Did you know that this method is useful in all cases?

Think if the person who was talking didn't

He wasn't referring to you. After he finished his speech, he mentioned the person's name, so you would have survived a farce in front of your friends that you will never forget :).

And if he really meant you, then you will have 5 minutes to think about responding to him, and that will be right and you have not wronged that person by responding to him.

Try this method and tell us the results.

Breathe calmly: calmly... calmly...

Good breathing removes anxiety and tension, notice when you are anxious and prostrate that the pace of your breathing is fast and abnormal, and for this you have to breathe deeply and calmly for some time when you are anxious or tense and you will feel that the anxiety disappears little by little.